Dear My Lovely Readers,
I have been quite reserved about my personal life lately. That is due to heaps of changes that have recently taken place. I am learning how to live, cope and deal with a narcissist (more on that in a future blog post), that is no easy task. However, I have recently started focusing on myself and that is something I have not done in a long time. It has done wonders to improve my self-esteem, self-worth and overall happiness. And that is what I want to talk to you about in this blog post today.
SELF-CARE, SELF-CARE, SELF-CARE
Self-Care is one of the single most important things I have ever taken seriously in my life. I don’t just mean having a bubble bath and some wine now and again (although that is a nice thing to do occasionally). I am talking about these things that I am about to list:
- Exercising- Exercise makes you fitter, think clearer and be stronger. Fit people deal with problems more effectively and are healthier. Food and sleep re-charges your batteries. So whether it’s a daily walk for a couple of minutes or an hour long, hardcore gym sesh, exercising every single day is such a mood booster, it literally helps to re-train your brain as much as it does your body. It releases good endorphins & dopamine (which are the literal happiness hormones) in your brain, this is why after you are done exercising you feel so good!
- Doing something nice for yourself- whether you have walked past a particular shop a thousand times and seen this beautiful dress in the window and you’ve thought “Nah, it wouldn’t look good on me”, so you kept going, I am hear to tell you, GIRL THAT DRESS WOULD LOOK FABULOUS ON YOU!!! Or maybe you have been wanting to get your nails done but just haven’t done it. You know what, starting right now I want you to start telling yourself “I AM WORTH MY TIME”, repeat it over and over until it sticks. Because, YOU ARE WORTH YOUR TIME. You are worth every single minute that you put into yourself and those minutes matter. They keep you from feeling rundown or like you have “let yourself go”.
- Eating Well- Now I know this is a touchy topic for some people, and I am NOT trying to step on any toes or tell you how/what you should be consuming. But I can tell you, I have recently changed my diet from take-out nearly every day (hey, I am a busy, full-time working, mom of two chaotic little boys), to cooking almost every single night of the week. We have been having healthy meals such as salmon & broccoli, chicken & roasted veggies, steak and potatoes. Personally, I have cut out things like bread and pasta (heavy carbs) but still feed it to my kids. And you know what the effect of that has been? Major Weight Loss for me and a much-improved attitude and sleeping pattern from my toddler. He has been having nothing but great days at school with no outbursts and negative behavior. These changes have been just as much helpful for him as they have for me. Which in turn helps my days because his school isn’t calling me complaining all the time.
- Get Involved- Have you been feeling/acting secretive or staying alone a lot lately? Time to switch back on to social interactions. Try to start off small, like going for coffee with a mate. Work your way up to bigger social interactions, like birthday parties and gatherings with family. Being with other people with help improve your mood. If your afraid you’ll get upset because you may not be able to stop yourself from chatting about your problems, try asking people how they are, focus on getting to know them, and you might find that you are not the only one with a basket full of life issues. It’s easy to think you’re the only one with problems but I promise you’re not. These interactions will help you to build a “Support Network”. Everyone needs support, and sometimes talking to your mom or your best friend may not be enough, and sometimes they can be a bit judgemental. Having an outside network of friends to support you is super critical to avoid feeling judged by immediate members of your life.
I hope this advice has been useful to you this week. After practising SELF-CARE for nearly two weeks now. I do not know why I ever stopped putting time into myself. Life is never too busy to take care of you. Even with a 3 year old, a nearly 4 month old, a full time job and every single little thing in between, I still find time to eat healthy, exercise for at least an hour a day, get my nails done & go shopping. I feel so much better because of all the things I am doing for myself and my family is functioning better because of it as well. I don’t feel so overwhelmed by thoughts of negativity anymore, I have the energy to play with my kids and enjoy their company, I am sleeping better at night, I wake up feeling more refreshed and revitalised than I have in years.
All I can say is DO IT, Love!
You WILL NOT regret it. You are not going to start doing all this great stuff for yourself and still feel like crap, I promise. I would love to give you some advice or hear about your own self-care practices as well. So please leave me a comment below.
Until Next Time
Hugs and Love
-The Raven xxxxx